#3 – Feelings
I didn’t paid so much attention at Feelings and Emotions until a specific episode in my life.
Clearly it was about a girl I was in love with and I was so jealous that in the end, in the attempt to keep her close to me,I was in fact pulling her away. Then what happened is I fell very low down into a sort of depression and my doctor gave me a medicine. This medicine in practice wouldn’t let me sink into negative thoughts. I say this because….this was very weird at that point..I really wanted to go to the way of bad thoughts but I simply couldn’t.
You can’t imagine what epiphany that was!! I always been a smiling guy and that was an isolated episode but you really can’t imagine what precious lesson it gave me.
I want to share it with you. By observing how the things happens into normal life, experiencing everything around us, I focused on the process of creation of what we call Feelings and Emotions…their mechanics.
Many people, me first for a lot of time confused this 2 very different conditions. Here’s why:
When we go trough our daily tasks, things happens, events occurs and each of them creates inside us a Feeling. What usually is ignored is the fact that we literally live inside a invisible ball made of invisible filters. This filters are the interpretations and labels we gave from our past experiences to this or that thing.
There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
This is a famous quote from William Shakespeare from his “Hamlet”.
“This smell makes me feel good”. “That song makes me feel sad”. These are the terminologies we use… but the same thing that make you sad can remind me happy times and make me feel good, right?
So, feelings are a byproduct of our tags and labels on every single perceivable thing coming in from the outside world. They are very important and powerful, because we rely on those feelings to REACT upon situations. They are in fact very useful when we go into dangerous situations. What we don’t consider, is that very often we fall into negative loops in the moment in which we rely too much on our feelings by over reacting upon them.
I always try to be very well aware of my feelings to be able to give to them the right weight. It is not at all that I try to avoid bad feelings. If it was all a joy, there wouldn’t be joy as such at all, right? I must say that in the end even bad feelings acquire a different “taste” once you understand how to enjoy all the spectrum and I am sure this is a skill in which you can get always better.
I hope Enjoy them like me. And hopefully better.
Lancia☀️
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